I used to be terrified of public speaking - now it's natural and fun.
Dry mouth, fast heart, sweaty palms, blank mind - yeah I've been there! It's easy
to fear public speaking. But I was never just content with overcoming fear. I wanted to be a great speaker. What I
needed was a way of calming down and applying simple techniques and strategies to talk like a pro.
When I'd learned to relax (more of that later) I learned and applied the
following four steps.
Reassure your audience - they need to know you know your stuff and you are
human!
Hook them by being interesting and relevant. Tell them why what you are
saying is relevant to them.
Inspire them by giving them information and ways of seeing that are new and
applicable.
Leave them on a high by telling a story them encapsulates your central
message.
How do you become confident enough to apply the four steps?
Here's some tips some of which are practical some of which are to do with the way
you think about your public presentations and also how you can start to change the way you feel about
them.
Tip One
Breath your way to calm. When you breath out you relax that's why people sigh when
they're stressed.
Breathing in without breathing out causes hyperventilation and worsens anxiety.
Just before your speech take five minutes breathing in to the count of seven and out to the count of eleven (quick
count-not seconds!). On the out breath hold it a second before breathing in again. This will produce quick and
lasting calm. Remember extending the out breath calms you down.
Tip Two
You have a responsibility as the presenter but relax you don't carry all the
responsibility. Presenting is a team effort. Audiences are responsible for politeness, extending their attention
and attempting to learn. It's not all you-it's a meeting of two halves. Never mind how they judge you. How do you
judge them?
Tip Three
Use metaphor and stories. We all experience life metaphorically. The most
technical logical person spends at least two hours a night dreaming! Talk detail if necessary but present patterns
with metaphors. Folk from 4 to 104 love stories. Use em.
Tip four
Captivate attention by using words that evoke all the senses. Describe how things
look, sound, feel, smell and taste. Paint pictures and sensations in their minds with your words.
Tip Five
Vary your voice tonality and speed of delivery. Keep them alert and engaged.
Convey energy when need be and slow down when you need to 'draw them in close.' You are the conductor to their
orchestra. And pepper your talk with humour. Your willingness to be funny shows personal confidence and confidence
is contagious.
Tip Six
Tell them what they are going to get. What they are currently getting and then
what they have got from you. Sell your sizzle!
Tip Seven
Watch and learn from other great speakers until compelling, relaxed speaking is a
part of you.
Rehearse positively. You need to rehearse how your going to feel as well as what
you are going to present. Don't think about your forthcoming presentation whilst feeling nervous as this creates an
instinctive association between fear and presenting. This natural negative self-hypnosis is very common with
nervous speakers.
Hypnotically rehearse your speech whilst feeling relaxed. This produces the right
'blueprint' in your mind. In fact when you do this enough times it actually becomes hard to be nervous!
All great speakers know how to use great self-hypnotic rehearsal. Hypnosis changes
attitudes and can bring emotion under control. I used hypnosis, to change my instincts around public speaking. Now
I just can't get nervous whether it's 50 or 500 people. The world needs great communicators. Go for it!
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