Public Speaking and Panic
Attacks
It is often observed that
many people’s top ranking fear is not death but having to
speak in public. The joke is that these people would rather
be lying in the casket at the funeral than giving the
eulogy. Public speaking for people who suffer from panic
attacks or general anxiety often becomes a major source of
worry weeks or even months before the speaking event is to
occur.
These speaking engagements do
not necessarily have to be the traditional "on a podium"
events but can be as simple as an office meeting where the
individual is expected to express an opinion or give verbal
feedback. The fear of public speaking and panic attacks in
this case centers on having an attack while speaking. The
individual fears being incapacitated by the anxiety and
hence unable to complete what he or she is saying. The
person imagines fleeing the spotlight and having to make
all kinds of excuses later for their undignified departure
out the office window….
This differs slightly from
the majority of people who fear public speaking because
their fear tends to revolve around going blank while
speaking or feeling uncomfortable under the spotlight of
their peers. The jitters or nerves of speaking in public
are of course a problem for this group as well, but they
are unfamiliar with that debilitating threat which is the
panic attack, as they most likely have not experienced one
before.
So how should a person with
an anxiety issue tackle public speaking?
Stage one is accepting that
all these bizarre and quite frankly unnerving sensations
are not going to go away overnight. In fact, you are not
even going to concern yourself with getting rid of them for
your next talk. When they arrive during a speech/meeting,
you are going to approach them in a new manner. What we
need to do is build your confidence back to where it used
to be before any of these sensations ever occurred. This
time you will approach it in a unique, empowering manner,
allowing you to feel your confidence again. It is said that
most of the top speakers are riddled with anxiety before
speaking, but they somehow use this nervousness to enhance
their speech. I am going to show you exactly how to do
this, although I know that right now if you suffer from
public speaking and panic attacks you may find it difficult
to believe you can ever overcome it.
My first point is this and it
is important. The average healthy person can experience an
extreme array of anxiety and very uncomfortable sensations
while giving a speech and is in no danger of ever losing
control, or even appearing slightly anxious to the
audience. No matter how tough it gets, you will always
finish your piece, even if at the outset it feels very
uncomfortable to go on. You will not become incapacitated
in any way.
The real breakthrough for if
you suffer from public speaking and panic attacks happens
when you fully believe that you are not in danger and that
the sensations will pass.
"I realize you (the anxiety)
hold no threat over me.”
What keeps a panic attack
coming again and again is the fear of the fear—the fear
that the next one will really knock your socks off and you
feel you were lucky to have made it past the last one
unscathed. As they were so unnerving and scary, it is your
confidence that has been damaged by previous anxiety
episodes. Once you fully understand you are not under any
threat, then you can have a new response to the anxiety as
it arises while speaking.
Defeating public speaking and
panic attacks...
There is always a turning
point when a person moves from general anxiety into a panic
attack, and that happens with public speaking when you
think to yourself:
"I won't be able to handle
this in front of these people."
That split second of
self-doubt leads to a rush of adrenaline, and the extreme
anxiety arrives in a wave like format. If, however, when
you feel the initial anxiety and you react with confidence
that this is not a threat to you, you will move out of the
anxiety rapidly. Using this new approach is a powerful ally
because it means it is okay to feel scared and feel the
anxiety when speaking–that is fine; you are going to feel
it and move with and through the sensations in your body
and out the other side. Because he or she is feeling very
anxious, often before the talk has begun, that person may
feel they have already let themselves down. Now, you can
relax on that point. It is perfectly natural to feel the
anxiety. Take for example the worst of the sensations you
have ever experienced in this situation—be it general
unease to loss of breath. You will have an initial
automatic reaction that says:
"Danger–I'm going to have an
episode of anxiety here and I really can’t afford that to
happen.”
At this point most people
react to that idea and confirm it must be true because of
all of the unusual feelings they are experiencing. This is
where your thinking can lead you down a train of thought
that creates a cycle of anxiety that produces a negative
impact on your overall presenting skills.
So let that initial “oh dear,
not now” thought pass by, and follow it up immediately with
the attitude of:
"There you are–I've been
wondering when you would arrive. I’ve been expecting you to
show up—by the way, I am not in the least threatened by any
of the strange sensations you are creating—I am completely
safe here.”
The key to controlling your
fear of public speaking and panic attacks is that instead
of pushing the emotional energy and excitement down into
your stomach, you are moving out through it. Your body is
in a slightly excited state, exactly as it should be while
giving a speech, so release that energy in your
self-expression. Push it out through your presentation not
down into your stomach. You push it out by expressing
yourself more forcefully. In this way you turn the anxiety
to your advantage by using it to deliver a speech where you
come across more alive, energetic and in the present
moment. When you notice the anxiety drop as it does when
you willingly move into it. Fire a quick thought off when
you get a momentary break (as I am sure you have between
pieces), asking it for “more.” You want more of its intense
feelings as you are interested in them and are absolutely
not threatened by them.
It seems like a lot of things
to be thinking about while talking to a group of people,
but it is not really. You’d be amazed how many different
non-related thoughts you can have while speaking. This
approach is about adopting a new attitude of confidence to
what you might have deemed a serious threat up until now.
This tactic will truly help you with fear of public
speaking and panic attacks you have associated with
them.
If your predominant fear of
the speaking engagement is driven by a feeling of being
trapped, then I would suggest factoring in some mental
releases that can be prepared before the event. For
example, some meetings/speeches allow for you to turn the
attention back to the room to get feedback etc. from the
group.
If possible, you might want
to prepare such opportunities in your own mind before the
engagements. This is not to say you have to ever use them,
but people in this situation often remark that just having
small opportunities where attention can be diverted for the
briefest of moments can make the task seem less daunting.
It my even be something as simple as having people
introduce themselves or opening the floor to questions. I
realize these diversions are not always possible and depend
on the situation, but anything you can factor in that makes
you feel less trapped or under the spotlight is worth the
effort and can help alleviate fear of public speaking and
panic attacks.
Learn more
http://www.panicportal.com
Joe Barry is an international
panic disorder coach. His informative site on all issues
related to panic and anxiety attacks can be found
here:
http://www.panicportal.com
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